A positive is that you learn to not take things so personally. If a colleague is upset with you, you simply realize that you did the best you could for the situation, take their opinion at just that (an opinion), and move on. There is no need to hold it over their head (or yours) and your professional relationship does not need to be strained over it.
I think being positive or being negative is a habit. I heard a great speaker this summer say this, and I believe it. He suggested committing to making positive thoughts a habit. One suggestion was to make a "positives journal" you commit to writing positive comments in for 21 days and see how it brightens your perspective.
It is much easier to be positive when surrounded by positive people. One good that could come is that if a couple of people team together to try to turn a negative conversation into a positive one. This seems to be a better solution than deciding to just be a recluse in your classroom. Getting drawn into a negative discussion is a choice you make.
Negativity is unhealthy and our students can pick up on this negativity through our actions and then they to can become negative. Surrounding yourself with positive people who can be supportive and team players will benefit the students and the school by creating a positive atmosphere for all to enjoy. If we let the negatives affect our day or the way we teach then it will stifle the creativity that we want to encourage in our students.
Think positive! Maybe your being positive will somehow rub off on those around you with negative attitudes. Negativity only hurts. Like the book suggests, maybe you could turn a negative conversation into a positive one.
I'm not sure anything positive can be gained from being around or contributing to negative conversations. I suppose if you try to change the tone of the conversation then you have positively affected a negative situation. Unfortunately, it is really easy to be sucked into negative attitudes. I agree with Kristin's comment...you are who you hang with! Surround yourself with positive people and you will become one. Wow, I think this also effects your effort and attitude at school. :)
Being around negative people usually breds negativity. If you find yourself in a negative situation I think the best thing is to try to keep your positive attitude, relay it on to the people around you, and get away from the negativeness so it won't bring you down. It seems so much easier to be negative than positive for some reason so take the extra effort to be positive.
The positive about being around negative people is that hopefully you can be a model to them about not needing to be so negative. Negativity never gets anyone anywhere. You could stand around taking about all the negative things that you can't change for hours, but it doesn't do anyone good and it wastes time you could use doing something that can help a student or co-worker. I tend to try to change the subject or walk away when I feel myself in a negative discussion. Being around positive people can help make someone be more positive/happy, and that then can transfer to our classrooms and students.
Being negative is easier than being positive, which is why it seems so natural and easy to fall into a negative mindset or conversation. Being positive takes more work, more practice, more patience, more understanding, but of course, is much more beneficial to myself and those around me.
Being positive is a choice that one makes each day. Hanging around negative people can drag you down. I try to walk away from negative people whenever possible. I knew a person who seemed to be happy only when he was negative. His negativity could change the whole mood of everyone. I think we need to set the example to our students that a positive attitude is essential in whatever they do.
We tell the kids all the time to do the “right thing” because the right thing is just what we do. We need to lead by example when it comes to being positive. It is much easier to see the negative in a situation, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
From the moment we wake up in the morning, we make that choice as whether or not we are going to be positive or negative. Negative people are like dark clouds. You have to be the sun that breaks through those clouds each day. It is so much nicer to walk out of the building each day when the people that surround you were positive. Kind of makes you want to return.
Negativity is a rut that easily widens. If someone starts down that road, it is easy for you to follow, if you choose to let yourself. Deciding not to dwell on the negative, or to trying to pull a conversation or a person out of that rut is a much better action. Negativity towards a student(s), a staff member, or a task doesn't help the student, the staff member, the situation, or one's self. It only creates an atmosphere of unpleasantness others really don't enjoy.
I don't enjoy being around "Bah, Humbug" people. I much prefer a positive atmosphere. Life's too short to dwell on the negative. If I find myself put in a situation where the conversation has turned negative, I will just walk away. Negativity is contagious and I don't want it to infect me or my classroom. School needs to be a positive experience or else no one will want to come...
I taught with someone years ago who was SO negative, that when it came time for the Jr. class to work on the seating chart for the Prom Banquet, all teachers refused to sit by him. Since I was the new kid on the block, I had the pleasure to sit by him and his wife. Whenever I find myself in a negative situation, I remember that experience and it always puts a smile on my face. Why, you ask? I have never since come across anyone as negative and it makes me remember again, that it is not about me. But there are times where we need to mention the probable negatives about a coming situation, or a happening that just took place and what didn't work, or policies that simply do not work for everyone and cause people grief.
A positive is that you learn to not take things so personally. If a colleague is upset with you, you simply realize that you did the best you could for the situation, take their opinion at just that (an opinion), and move on. There is no need to hold it over their head (or yours) and your professional relationship does not need to be strained over it.
ReplyDelete"You are who you hang with"
ReplyDeleteI think being positive or being negative is a habit. I heard a great speaker this summer say this, and I believe it. He suggested committing to making positive thoughts a habit. One suggestion was to make a "positives journal" you commit to writing positive comments in for 21 days and see how it brightens your perspective.
It is much easier to be positive when surrounded by positive people. One good that could come is that if a couple of people team together to try to turn a negative conversation into a positive one. This seems to be a better solution than deciding to just be a recluse in your classroom. Getting drawn into a negative discussion is a choice you make.
ReplyDeleteNegativity is unhealthy and our students can pick up on this negativity through our actions and then they to can become negative. Surrounding yourself with positive people who can be supportive and team players will benefit the students and the school by creating a positive atmosphere for all to enjoy. If we let the negatives affect our day or the way we teach then it will stifle the creativity that we want to encourage in our students.
ReplyDeleteThink positive! Maybe your being positive will somehow rub off on those around you with negative attitudes. Negativity only hurts. Like the book suggests, maybe you could turn a negative conversation into a positive one.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure anything positive can be gained from being around or contributing to negative conversations. I suppose if you try to change the tone of the conversation then you have positively affected a negative situation. Unfortunately, it is really easy to be sucked into negative attitudes. I agree with Kristin's comment...you are who you hang with! Surround yourself with positive people and you will become one. Wow, I think this also effects your effort and attitude at school. :)
ReplyDeleteBeing around negative people usually breds negativity. If you find yourself in a negative situation I think the best thing is to try to keep your positive attitude, relay it on to the people around you, and get away from the negativeness so it won't bring you down. It seems so much easier to be negative than positive for some reason so take the extra effort to be positive.
ReplyDeleteThe positive about being around negative people is that hopefully you can be a model to them about not needing to be so negative. Negativity never gets anyone anywhere. You could stand around taking about all the negative things that you can't change for hours, but it doesn't do anyone good and it wastes time you could use doing something that can help a student or co-worker. I tend to try to change the subject or walk away when I feel myself in a negative discussion. Being around positive people can help make someone be more positive/happy, and that then can transfer to our classrooms and students.
ReplyDeleteBeing negative is easier than being positive, which is why it seems so natural and easy to fall into a negative mindset or conversation. Being positive takes more work, more practice, more patience, more understanding, but of course, is much more beneficial to myself and those around me.
ReplyDeleteBeing positive is a choice that one makes each day. Hanging around negative people can drag you down. I try to walk away from negative people whenever possible. I knew a person who seemed to be happy only when he was negative. His negativity could change the whole mood of everyone. I think we need to set the example to our students that a positive attitude is essential in whatever they do.
ReplyDeleteWe tell the kids all the time to do the “right thing” because the right thing is just what we do. We need to lead by example when it comes to being positive. It is much easier to see the negative in a situation, but it doesn’t solve the problem.
ReplyDeleteFrom the moment we wake up in the morning, we make that choice as whether or not we are going to be positive or negative. Negative people are like dark clouds. You have to be the sun that breaks through those clouds each day. It is so much nicer to walk out of the building each day when the people that surround you were positive. Kind of makes you want to return.
ReplyDeleteNegativity is a rut that easily widens. If someone starts down that road, it is easy for you to follow, if you choose to let yourself. Deciding not to dwell on the negative, or to trying to pull a conversation or a person out of that rut is a much better action. Negativity towards a student(s), a staff member, or a task doesn't help the student, the staff member, the situation, or one's self. It only creates an atmosphere of unpleasantness others really don't enjoy.
ReplyDeleteI don't enjoy being around "Bah, Humbug" people. I much prefer a positive atmosphere. Life's too short to dwell on the negative. If I find myself put in a situation where the conversation has turned negative, I will just walk away. Negativity is contagious and I don't want it to infect me or my classroom. School needs to be a positive experience or else no one will want to come...
ReplyDeleteI taught with someone years ago who was SO negative, that when it came time for the Jr. class to work on the seating chart for the Prom Banquet, all teachers refused to sit by him. Since I was the new kid on the block, I had the pleasure to sit by him and his wife. Whenever I find myself in a negative situation, I remember that experience and it always puts a smile on my face. Why, you ask? I have never since come across anyone as negative and it makes me remember again, that it is not about me.
ReplyDeleteBut there are times where we need to mention the probable negatives about a coming situation, or a happening that just took place and what didn't work, or policies that simply do not work for everyone and cause people grief.